Part of me feels superstitiously leery of making baby plans a good month before realistic viability (I'm 21 weeks as of yesterday, so the realistic gestation of 25-26 weeks where I would have a reasonable hope of Wulfrith making is in another month. A very few babies have survived at 23 weeks, but I don't think I would attempt to extend the life of any baby born before 24 weeks because the odds would be so low it would be an exercise in cruelty). But I'm a planner by nature, so I can't help myself. And since I'm devoting a great deal of brain space to this, I may as well write it down and be organized about it.
Stuff we need to buy:
We don't have as much as you might expect for people who've already had a baby because we jettisoned an awful lot of stuff when we moved on the theory that it was cheaper to replace them than pay to transport them. So we need:
car seat (given that that carseats expire after five years and ours would have been well over four, I don't feel as bad about this as I might)
bouncy seat (our original one was used to begin with and about to give up the ghost)
diapers - last time we used disposables in the beginning until K was big enough to fit in medium size covers, which only took ten weeks. But I'd just as soon cloth diaper from birth this time, since we know what we're doing this time and know that diaper laundry isn't any more work than the rest of the laundry a new baby produces. So we need covers in small and infant size prefolds, since we started with regular size prefolds that would dwarf a newborn - probably three dozen infant and 8 covers or so. We have a number of bumGenius one-size pocket diapers, but K is currently wearing them to bed and while she very well could be dry at night by June, it would probably be good to get a few more one-size diapers for the baby use at daycare. We'll probably need to get a few new medium covers as well since the old ones were pretty beat up by the time we retired them, but that can wait for a while and we have more than enough larger prefolds.
A new breastfeeding pillow, since our old Boppy is rather flat and buried somewhere in the garage, plus a couple covers
some sort of double stroller, since there are just enough times we'll be walking long enough distances that I won't be able to count on K walking. I would like to do things like walk to pick her up from day camp or preschool this summer and fall, both of which are far enough I can't count on her walking the entire way. Hopefully spending money on a stroller will give me the incentive to actually do this.
dresser for Wulfrith, possibly some more storage for diapers
(maybe)new bed for K - my current plan is have Wulfrith sleep with us, but we often wind up with a three year old in the bed, which I don't think she's going to outgrow in the next four months. Add in three cats, and even though we have a queen size bed, it's going to get pretty crowded. So the cheapest solution I can think of is to get K a new bed (probably one of the adjustable length bed from Ikea), and then find a way to fasten her current toddler bed next to ours as a co-sleeper.
cloth for various things I want to sew
How much of this do we actually need if things go pear-shaped financially? The carseat and the diapers, and I could probably get my mother to buy one of those. But most of these things would be nice if we can afford them.
Stuff I want to make:
a new sling - I'm not sure where our old one is, and I'd like to make some improvements that will hopefully make it more comfortable with a heavier baby, since our last one could really dig into your shoulder once she hit 18 pounds
doll sling for K, possibly some doll diapers
diaper inserts and liners
cover for a new pad for the rocking chair
Stuff we need to do:
figure out how to rearrange house: we need to clear the guest room for Wulfrith, which means finding a new place for the futon. The best place for that is the basement, which is currently where the bulk of K's toys and the computer, good tv and dvr are. At a minimum, we'll need to move a couch upstairs to the living room/dining room area that is currently housing the dining room table and all of our books. The problem with keeping guests in the basement is that we won't have access to all of our normal evening entertainment after guests go to bed, so we need to decide whether we'll just move it upstairs when we have guests or move it upstairs more permanently and move the books downstairs. But the thought of moving all of those books makes me want to sit down and weep a little.
clean out garage to make room for anything that no longer fits in the house
dig out newborn clothes and sort through them (I've bought a few little boy things, but I'm not going to worry too much about buying clothes. Since we didn't know what K would be, we had to buy a decent number of gender neutral 0-3 clothes for her, and based on our previous experience, the generosity of friends and family will fill in the holes. The only problem will come if Wulfrith turns out to be significantly smaller than K, and if that happens, longstrider
can be sent out for some emergency teeny newborn clothes)
reassemble and clean crib, cradle, baby swing
rearrange bedroom to make room for baby stuff